A Few Tips: Caring for your Wives

Assalamualaikum everyone!

This post is based solely on my experiences as a woman, not as a wife as I am not married yet

I hope you all are well by the grace of Allah ☻

Today I am writing about how many men do not understand the complexity of a woman. What does a woman need from her husband the most? How can the husband keep the wife happy? Let’s have a discussion.

Although I am not married, I feel that assurance is what wives need the most from their husbands. Keep in mind that all women are different. Assurance that their husbands love and care about them. Brothers, small gestures can go a long way. Get her a gift, shower her with compliments, tell her how much you love her. These small gestures make a great impact on the contentment of a woman.

A woman also needs assurance of safety and protection. A great aspect a woman looks at when deciding on marriage is will I be safe with him? This means emotionally and physically. Emotionally, listen to her problems in a concerned manner. Don’t brush her thoughts and feelings off. A woman looks for her best friend in her husband and someone she can truly confide in, someone who will care. Physically safe, on the other hand, is self-explanatory.

A woman needs assurance that her husband is happy with her. Let her know how blessed you are for having her in your life. One of the main concerns of a wife is that her husband is pleased with her.

A woman’s children are precious to her. A woman naturally wants the best father and example for her children. Play with your children (if you are blessed with them, if not, may Allah bless you with these gifts, ameen) and teach them well, you’ll be indirectly taking care of your wives in this way and your family as a whole as it will bring your family closer in sha Allah.

Finally, a woman does a lot for her family. We sacrifice a lot in the hidden which people feel the effect of, but never know the sacrifice it took for the effect. Therefore, always appreciate not only your wives, but all women in your household. Be gentle and soft with women.

This is a short post because as I stated before, I am not married so I cannot write much on this subject. I posted this in the thought process of how I personally would want to be treated by my husband, however, I’ll restate that women are different and expect different things. Nonetheless, I do believe that these are some things most women look for in their marriages.

Those of you who are married, please feel free to let me know your thoughts, agreements, and disagreements on this post! Jazakallahu khayran.

✧ Dania




  1. It was a great post – thank you for sharing your thoughts.

    Im a guy and also not married so my opinion is also an opinion but because I have seen many married people from quite close Proximity like my Parents, my siblings, my cousins and my uncles.

    I have lived with these people for quite long and yes all the things you mentioned are in fact the requirement for a woman to be happy with their marriage.

    One more thing I’d like to mention is the fact that a husband needs to think about the family of the wife as her own – e.g. if the father of wife is ill then at least reflecting the same level of concern (taking some hours off to go see him with her) or if some close cousin of wife is getting married then feeling the same excitement as her – talking about dress she is wearing or what she is planning.

    I have seen marriages get almost destroyed because the husband tries to pull wife away from her family (please never do that – PLEASE!) – they have spent some 20 or more years with her and she cant just forget them and she shouldn’t even.

    She can love you YES and at the same time care for her family – This is the most stupidest thing to think that by Caring for her own family she’s neglecting you – she’s a human and has relations, and please don’t try to pull her away from them.

    (I think i would post this on my own blog too lol).

    Anyway Happy breathing!


    1. Assalamualaikum, that’s a great point. When we marry, we create a relationship with not only the spouse, but the spouse’s family as well. I’d love to view your blog post on this in sha Allah!

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      1. Apologies but out of respect as a Muslim we are not allowed to reply the Salam of a non-mahram.

        Yes that’s true indeed. I have lots of other good blog posts on mine similar to this topic too. It’s finishedwar.wordpress.com

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