Assalamualaikum everyone!

(Before I start: Sorry for the lame photo, I needed one to get my point across and well I’m not an artist, it’s the best I could do…☻)

A common situation that occurs when a person gets close to their deen is that they want those around them to get close to deen as well. Even me, of course you want your loved ones to be guided and take guidance seriously. However, we often take the wrong approach.

When we get more knowledge of what is right and what is wrong, we are quick to call out people on their actions. The entire day goes by for you telling your family that half the things they do is haram. My brothers and sisters, this is not the right approach. Keep the big picture in mind and let go of the details to bring them to Islam.

When Allah started the revelation of Quran, He did not first impose laws on the ummah. He talked about heaven and hell. You have to first create a love for Islam in the hearts of people, and then slowly guide them in the small matters.

If we keep acting the way we do with people, rather than calling them to Islam, you will be pushing them away. The people you want to guide will think to themselves, “too many rules, I can’t live like this.” If you develop love for Islam in the hearts of others, automatically they will eventually start taking care of the small things themselves.

The best way to develop love in people’s heart is to beautify your character. When people look at the amazing person you have become after embracing your deen, they will think to themselves “a religion which causes people to act like that, has to be the right religion.” Many people accepted Islam because of the character of the prophet, Abū Bakr as-Șiddīq Radhiallahu ‘anhu, for example, accepted islam on the first call without any hesitation due to the prophet ﷺ’s noble character. So work on yourselves, your ikhlaq, and your adab.

Bottom line is – beautify your manners, do not make things hard for people by calling everything they do haram, and talk about the big picture of Islam (heaven, hell, 5 pillars, characteristics of Allah, etc.)

In sha Allah, people will accept your dawah and be guided or take Islam more seriously.

Also, stay persistent, don’t give up, and keep making dua.

I’m going to finish off by saying don’t become aggressive and frustrated or think of yourselves as better, remember that you were once like those around you, it is only by Allah’s grace and mercy that you were guided.

If anyone has anything to add to this, any disagreement or further advice, please let me know in the comments! ☻

Fi amanillah,

✧ Dania